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Surprise birthday party invitation

An invitation that keeps the secret: it tells guests when to arrive before the guest of honour and how not to give it away.

When to use it

  • You're planning a surprise and need everyone in place before the birthday person arrives.
  • Guests may know the birthday person well enough to accidentally mention it.

Preview

Shh… it's a surprise

Surprise party for Jordan

  • Friday 27 November
  • Arrive by 7pm sharp
  • Casa Verde, 21 Lane Road

Reply to Taylor by Friday 20 November

The card shows example details until you add your own.

Your details

Optional. Anything you type goes straight into the wording. Nothing is sent or saved.

The wording

Email subject

Shh: surprise party for [Birthday person's name] on [Date]

It's a surprise!

[Birthday person's name] has a birthday coming up, and we're throwing a surprise party. Please don't mention it to them.

Date: [Date]
Arrive by: [Arrive by]
Place: [Place and address]

[Birthday person's name] thinks they're coming for a quiet dinner and will arrive at [Surprise time]. Please be there before then, park out of sight if you can, and keep your phone on silent.

Reply to me (not in any group chat [Birthday person's name] is in) by [Reply by]. Text or call [Organiser's phone].

Thanks for helping keep the secret,
[Organiser's name]

Words in [brackets] are the details to fill in, here or after you paste it.

Variations

The same invitation, adjusted for a different setting or channel. Your details carry over.

Short text or WhatsApp

Send to each guest directly, never to a chat the birthday person is in.

Surprise party for [Birthday person's name]! [Date] at [Place and address]. Please arrive by [Arrive by]: they get there at [Surprise time]. Don't tell them! Let me know by [Reply by]. [Organiser's name]

Night-of reminder

Send on the day to everyone who said yes.

Reminder: surprise party for [Birthday person's name] tonight. Please be at [Place and address] by [Arrive by]. They arrive at [Surprise time]. Phones on silent!

What to ask in the RSVP

Ask only what changes your plans. For this kind of event, that's:

  1. Can you come? (Yes / No)Numbers for the venue and food.
  2. Will you be there by the arrival time?Late arrivals can walk in with the birthday person and spoil the surprise.
  3. Any dietary requirements?Only if you're serving a meal.

Leave out

  • Anything that needs a group discussion: keep replies one-to-one so nothing leaks.

More on this in what to ask guests when they RSVP.

Tips before you send

  • Make a separate group or list without the birthday person, and double-check it before you send.
  • Have one trusted person bring the birthday person, and agree on a text to send when they're five minutes away.
  • Send the night-of reminder to confirmed guests only.

Sending it by email, text or WhatsApp, and tracking replies

  • Email: paste the wording into a new message, use the subject line above, and put guests in BCC if they don't all know each other.
  • Text or WhatsApp: use the short version. Send it to each guest, or to a group chat if everyone already knows each other, and pin it so the details are easy to find.
  • Tracking replies: for a handful of guests, a note on your phone works. For more, collect answers in one place, like a shared spreadsheet or a simple online form with the RSVP questions above.
  • EvntBuild: event software that will send invitations by email, text and WhatsApp, with RSVP forms that only ask what applies and replies kept in one place. It's opening soon and isn't live yet. Join the EvntBuild waitlist to hear when it opens.